As summer comes around, events like festivals and holidays can often prove a challenging time for recovering addicts surrounded by temptations.
To help combat these urges, expert Thomas Isbell, Co-Founder & CEO of Sabino Recovery, a leading addiction and mental health treatment facility in the US, guides us through seven tips to stay on your sober path.
Tip 1 – Keep your reasons for being sober visible
When surrounded by temptations, it is good to remind yourself why you are sober, and you can easily do this with something like setting your lockscreen as a photo of your reasons.
This can help ground you in moments where you feel the pull to break sobriety.
Whether it is a photo of your family, a picture of a checklist of your reasons, or a picture of yourself, a simple photo can prove good to keep you in check and remind yourself of your motivations and keep yourself accountable for your recovery.
Tip 2 – Have a sober buddy
While it is not always possible to attend an event with another sober person, if it is possible, then this is a great option.
Often, there are Facebook groups for those attending a festival sober and you can link up with these people beforehand.
A sober buddy is someone you can talk to when things get difficult, and they will help you keep in check.
If a physical person is not an option, ensuring you have helplines saved on your phone you can easily call can prove all the difference in avoiding a relapse.
Tip 3 – Give yourself other sources of dopamine
One important thing to focus on is increasing your dopamine levels through other, healthy, methods.
Alcohol and drugs can easily become enticing if you do not have a different source, so it is key to give yourself this boost elsewhere.
While festivals may not provide the best arena for outdoor exercise, something small, like meditating before an event, can give you a small boost and set you up for a good day.
Alongside this, eating nutritious food and a varied diet will help your brain stay on track and focused across any event or weekend away.
If you can fuel yourself with healthy food that helps boost your dopamine levels, then you will have an easier time staying on the right path.
Tip 4 – Get over your embarrassment and enjoy the fun
Many of us feel embarrassed over doing something like dancing in public, but in order to remain sober you must jump the hurdle and become okay with doing things you have deemed humiliating in public.
Practicing mindfulness ahead of a trip can set you up and then engaging, little by little, in the ‘embarrassing’ behaviour can slowly but surely get you feeling more confident.
Tip 5 – Know where things are ahead of your trip
If it is possible, knowing where the alcohol-free options of the trip are can set you in good stead.
If it is a festival you are attending, there will be places that serve alcohol-free options, and you can find this information through asking organisers, researching online and consulting maps.
If you are attending a holiday celebration, then speaking with the hosts beforehand about alcohol-free options can set you up for an enjoyable time where you do not unnecessarily encounter anything that could trigger you.
Tip 6 – Recognise your triggers and avoid them
For some, being around alcohol is not a trigger anymore, but for others, newer on their journey to sobriety, it can be an easy catalyst for relapsing.
Knowing ahead of time what could trigger you to relapse is key to avoiding such a situation.
If you are new to your sober life, then recognising that going to a boozy party is going to be too big of a risk for staying on track, then there is no shame avoiding it.
It is more important to keep yourself on the path to your goals and any true friend would understand.
Tip 7 – Set boundaries ahead of the event
Setting boundaries is a brilliant way of practicing patience with yourself.
Tell yourself ahead of time how long you are going to spend somewhere and stick to it.
You build trust with yourself when you know your limit and stick to what you say.
There is no need to be overly harsh with yourself though, and it is important to set realistic goals.
Commenting more on the topic, Thomas Isbell from Sabino Recovery said:
“During the summer months, staying sober can be hard.
“The government reported that over 1 million patients a year are admitted for alcohol-related issues, signifying a clear problem in the UK.
“Trying to be social during this time especially requires a lot of patience and dedication.
“There is no shame in recognising that an event or party is too much for you and removing yourself.
“Those around you who really care will happily provide accommodations for you and will help where possible.
“Substance abuse issues are treatable and with focus and dedication you can thrive in these social events without feeling that urge to engage with alcohol or drugs.”
